Category: Parent Talk
Hello,
My name's Tilly and I'm having a major family problem. I have a 17-year-old brother who smokes pot, gets drunk, has several tatoos, either skips or is tarty to school on a daily basis and doesn't live at home with my mother. He and his friends would rather live from house to house every night acting like grown adults. My problem is they show up at my house at all hours of the night unannounced and i confront them about it, it goes in one ear and out the other. I tell my mother what's going on and that i was kicking them out and she gets upset with me. She basically allows him to do whatever he wants to do even though it's starting to effect her life too because a few weeks ago, his school told her that if showed up late to school or didn't show at all again, they would take her to court. She doesn't try to make him go home at night instead, she just brings him food, clothes, and money to whose ever house he's currently staying at. On top of my mother making me look like the bad guy, i also feel bad for throwing minors in the street with nowhere to go so i just let them stay the night at my house. This situation is taking effect on my relationship and my living situation. He's damaged walls in my house and the rental office has no tresspassing papers out on him so if he gets caught here, my ass is out in the street and it's like my mother cares she'll just defend him. I mean, she didn't even let the cops see the damage when they were called that night because she didn't want him to go to Juvi. He's so irresponsible and she keeps enabling him and she expects me to do the same! I mean, when i was his age, i would've never been allowed to do any of the shit he does. U know what though? It's like all the parents in Staunton Va don't give a fuck what their kids do because most of these kids do the same thing my brother does.
if they turn up at your house again call the police.
You can't be responsible for them; neither can you be responsible for your mother or the way she deals with your brother.
I said this on Blindcool's topic and I'll say it again here. It doesn't matter whether you label a topic "parents only", "no non-parennts", or anything else of your choosing. The only category that has any sort of restrictions on content is "Safe Haven", and even that doesn't limit who posts. So unless the staff comes back here and says they're going to honor your request for parents only, any of us can post whenever we want, on whichever topic we want.
Now, having said that, speaking as someone who is not a parent myself, but as someone who knows plenty of people who are, the majority of parents I know, including my own, are absolutely not okay with enabling their children, nor are they okay with anyone else enabling there's. Sometimes you need to show a bit of tough love. If that involves kicking your own kid out, or calling the police on your own kid, or in your case, your own brother, then so be it. He needs to learn that his family and friends are not doormats, and that if you want to be a freeloader, you'd better be ready to pay some consequences.
If that was my child I would send them to movie so that maybe jail can nock some dance in to them.
That is what I would do if I swore you.
The reason for that is so that maybe some one can see what type of person your brother.
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My daughter is not that age yet but IS would not stand for this behavior at all.
I would just now also know what to do.
hat must be a tuff situation for you and also for your parents.
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